Now, I’m starting to feel like it may be time to give dating a second look.Over the last few years, I’ve interviewed dating experts like David Wygant and Lisa Copeland. So, as you can imagine, she has a lot to say about dating after divorce. Martha says that there is one question that every woman should ask herself before dating after a divorce. There are so many wonderful things that you can do with your time and being single is absolutely a viable lifestyle for many women.You’ll need their shoulders to cry on, and their wisdom and listening ears to help you navigate this exciting new chapter. With the life changes you’ve gone through, make sure you’re taking the time to focus on you. Dress in a way that makes you feel good about what you see in the mirror.Switch up your daily routine so you’re not stuck in past patterns and ruts by default, and choose to surround yourself with the people and things that inspire you.Martha agrees with me that dating after 60 doesn’t have to be so darn serious. These same women have absolutely no problem expecting a man to be rich and devilishly handsome. In a strange harmonious way, we’re all in this together.The truth is that both men and women need to be realistic when it comes to dating after 60. The sooner men and women over 60 accept who we are, the better. Martha recommends that older women take the time to write down what they are looking for in a partner. If “good looks” or “money” are at the top of your list, you may be setting yourself up for disappointment.
We miss the support that being in a relationship can bring and we crave physical contact. She says that we need to remind ourselves that everyone – men and women – feel insecure and nervous when it comes to dating. The trick is to “embrace the awkward” and not let our fears about our appearance or our inevitable mistakes get in the way. Many women hate the fact that older men judge them, in part, based on their appearance. But, most older men simply don’t have the confidence, looks, financial resources and charm to compete with men 1 or 2 decades their junior.
No need to introduce your children to all your dating partners. But it is necessary that you tell them about the situation you are currently in and how you want to start your life again. Go back to your past hobbies and activities that interest you.
Engage in activities that will empower you and make you a better person.
Still, it can be intimidating to re-enter the world of dating.
Need a little encouragement before you take that plunge? It sounds like trite advice, but it’s worth following: Don’t date until you’re ready to date. If you’re serious about finding love again, make sure you understand where you are in the healing process.