Women are frequently made to toe a line between being polite enough to not set off the suitor, but not so polite that their manners are interpreted as flirting.”Indeed, empirical evidence supports these “inherent difficulties” Roy describes.
Let’s get this out of the way: being rejected – whether it’s by a relative stranger or by someone you have known and longed for for ages – sucks. However, it’s also not the end of the world scenario that you’ve conjured up in your head. After all, if the way to get over rejection is to get rejected, how are you supposed to learn from it in the first place?
In other words, if a man sees you as funny and engaging, you’ll think you’re funny and engaging.
If he thinks you’re physically unattractive and a bore, you’ll find yourself feeling insecure.
Regardless of the communication tactic, ultimately saying “no” can lead to a backlash of breakup proportions despite a relationship that never even existed.
She writes:“The whole exchange is pretty emblematic of the inherent difficulties of rejecting men, both online and off.