That they'll scream and shout at each other in that way that only Korean men can sound.
That they'll respond to any compliment about how big, strong, tall or tough they are as though you've just given them the best Christmas present ever. I like that both sides are present and readily visible. I hate it as much as I appreciate it, to be honest, sometimes more on certain days.
I’m not exactly quiet, and I’m definitely not the ‘submissive girl’ that many people see South Korean girls as. But somehow, my personality became a problem when I started dating men in South Korea at the age of 20. I thought, is my outgoing personality — which was attractive to them in the beginning — an obstacle to developing a stable relationship? A bunch of my girlfriends had similar worries when dating South Korean men.
Many men approached me, expressing an interest in my outgoing personality. But sooner or later, they started to complain about things that energize my life, what I think are important, like interacting with people and having fun at interesting social gatherings. The biggest source of complaint was the irony of men applying different standards on their female friends and “girlfriend.” Some guys I knew loved hanging out with girls whom they called cool and funny — for example, girls who could drink two bottles of soju straight.
I see myself as a lively, bright and sociable girl.
I love to interact with new people and have no problem making new friends.
It’s quite easy to spot who’s dating who walking in any Korean downtown.
” “Do you really have to go to all those social gatherings? They wanted to date a girl who was smart and independent enough to handle her own life, but also dependent enough to respect when faced with difficulties.I have a feeling quite a few people will be quite surprised to hear some of this coming out of me. I've spent far, far too much time around second language speakers to have even an ounce of condescension toward it left in me. They're doing something that I have never been able to do, something I desperately want to be able to do in Korean. And the truth is, there's nothing I find sexier than a man I have to admit is, in any way, smarter than I am.But I'm going to do my best to lay that aside, and be really honest. Of course, this isn't a part of Korean dating culture, but it definitely plays a role in inter/// dating. What these particular types don't like to face is that a lot of us women are so fucking relieved to get outside of the stereotypes. It isn’t always easy to find new friends, let alone something on a romantic level when living in another country.Especially South Korea, a country so different from the West, dating culture bears certain do’s and don’ts that are not like at home.