With 1 in 7 new marriages in the United States today being between people of different races or ethnicities, however, it’s quite possible you’ll find yourself dating someone of another race.
Here are three tips should you go down that potentially bumpy, yet rewarding path: Be sensitive to their feelings We can never fully understand someone else’s life experiences and how those situations led to their unique point of view.
For example, black men who are raised around nothing but white people in a white school with white friends…I don’t expect them to necessarily be down with the Nubian Bourgetto Hood Princesses (NBHPs), and neither should you.
I realize that we have been conditioned by standards of beauty, but I’ve always thought it far more complicated than being forever programmed to like a certain type of woman based on growing up looking at Cosmopolitan magazine cover women while waiting with our mothers in grocery store lines.
I had a recent conversation with a female associate – a white woman – who admitted to me that the life partner she was in search of must be a white dude.
As a black male, I had that natural, visceral “why he gotta be a WHITE dude?? That type of gut reaction, I think, is to be expected when directed from someone of the majority race to someone of a historically oppressed race.
Deep down, I’ve got this nagging feeling she doesn’t understand, nor does she know what she’s missing.I’m no social scientist, but common sense and experience has led me to believe our environmental upbringing is big in our attractions.Now, if someone is not attracted to another race because they are worried about how they would be perceived, how their friends would think or anything along those lines, racist.The biggest issue for me is when people aren’t attracted to anyone of their OWN ethnicity.I find that odd, but then again I also am not sure if it’s an issue of self-hate so much as it’s a by-product of how and where a person is raised.