Even though this guy and I were 25 years apart, we had a lot in common. I didn't know then that our age gap would define the relationship. I got that; but even though I knew there was no future, I didn’t cut it off completely. After it ended, he talked to a lot of people about our relationship -- and what happened through the grapevine was unexpected. Women judged me as having an ulterior, economic motive: “She just dated him for his money,” or “She thought she could get ahead.” In our society people are so quick to judge a young, naïve woman -- never the older man who perhaps should’ve known better too.
The last I heard, my older ex was in a tumultuous relationship with another 20-something, this time a singer reminiscent of Björk.
You’re not going to a get a true picture about someone’s lifestyle in a month; give yourself a few months of dating to make sure that you’ve seen him or her in as many real-life situations as possible.
Rather than asking him or her such questions directly, lay low and gather your information over time.
That was my experience from dating a much older man.
What began as a romantic adventure into unconventional love turned into a disaster I should have seen coming from waaaay over the hill. How old you actually are doesn't necessarily have a lot to do with your lifestyle.